Name: Jan - INKY'S PAL Charleys Girl NEWBEE CHAT & HELP LINE I'm a Charley's girl and loving it!
Hi everyone, this is a request for my cousin Wesley. (He is just 6-8 years younger than me.)He was born with diabetes and all his life he has been sickly and his Mom took care of him. His Dad died several years ago and His Mom died about 5-6 years ago. I took him in and supported him for years till we could get his disability going and get him an apartment and set up so he was able to care for himself. This year was bad for him and he now was put on hospice today to bring the end to this life , in peace. He is giving up and wants to just die in peace. He has refused dialysis treatments now and refused medical care except for hospice. These next few weeks will be very trying and painful for us all who love him and finding it hard to let him go, so I am asking for prayers for his comfort and painless end and comfort for the living friends and family left behind. He is such a sweet and big hearted little fellow that you'd ever meet. I value and cherish all your prayers and support and thank you all for your warmth you show and freely give to strangers in need. It has been the love and friendships I have made here this past year that has got me through this year myself. I will be eternally grateful to you all who has shown me such love and support.
Sending you lots of thoughts and prayers for your cousin Wesley! It is especially hard to lose someone at the Holidays! I pray he is medicated, and kept comfortable!
A Crafty Cubit
Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today. James Dean
Name: Charleen Barnesville, Ga. Zone 7b-8 Walk in Peace / I'm Charley's Mom.
AH! Poor Mr. Wesley. Will say very sincere prayers for his peaceful passing.
He is ready to go, God knows when he will take him Just let him do it His way.
Prayers for you My Dear Friend.
Hugs
Name: chelle N.E. Indiana I'm proud to be a Charley's Girl!
Sending loving and comforting thoughts your way Jan.
Wesley is doing what he needs to do and I agree with Charleen "He is ready to go, God knows when he will take him Just let him do it His way."
Name: Charleen Barnesville, Ga. Zone 7b-8 Walk in Peace / I'm Charley's Mom.
they seem to know. I know it will be difficult but even when we know they are on their way, we just don't want to let go! We got to let go, so they can have their final rest. Bless His heart, he is preparing himself for his journey to heaven.
That is my belief that helps me cope.
Name: Jan - INKY'S PAL Charleys Girl NEWBEE CHAT & HELP LINE I'm a Charley's girl and loving it!
I agree with you all, and I will abide by his decision, he made me his power of attorney and made a living will to have me make decisions for him when he couldn't, so I just hope I can when it's time. I told them today as long as he is in his right mind I won't go against his wishes. So they set him up with hospice and started the process. I know the family is gonna pressure me to change it and get upset with me if I don't but I have to do what he asked me to. I know he will be in a better place. He was happy working in his church and going on mission trips to help in other areas. This year he started going down hill. And he is determined to stop fighting and just go. It just seems to be too much for him. He has given up.
That is what is so bad. He doesn't want to live anymore. I'm going tomorrow and talk to him and let him tell me exactly what he wants and get it in writing so it is followed to a T. It is just gonna be hard to watch him go like that. The caregiver told me today what to expect and it is awful.
Name: Jamie R Zone 5, WI save the rainforest & habitat
Hospice IS awful. The docs wanted to put mom there on a Friday. I finally convinced them to keep her in the hospital for the weekend even though they had to screw around with medicare restrictions. God chose to take her from there but nothing was 'withdrawn'. If he can tomorrow, talk with him and do get him to open his defenses so that it can be God's decision completely.
Woman on the eastbound train
...........................................Je Suis Désolé.
(also a mule lovin', Charley huggin' girl)
Mekos, if you have a tape recorder, or video camera, that would be even better, to get all his wishes on tape, then no one can try to change it!
Sending you prayers to have the strength to get through it!
A Crafty Cubit
Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today. James Dean
Name: Sass up North, just yonder a ways A Charley's Gal, YES I BE !!
Wesley is a very lucky person to have an angel like you to help him through this difficult transition. Bless your heart Jan.. I feel so awful for you. I'll be keeping Wesley & the rest of your family close in thought & prayer. I know the road ahead is going to be difficult ~ but you can handle it... & dear Wesley knows it too, which is why he trusted you enough to be in charge!
May God bless you Jan for being there for Wesley, and taking care of him during this hard time. You truly are an angel, and we will all be keeping you both in our prayers. May Wesley not suffer and may God give you both the strength that you will need. If we can do anything else for you, please just ask, as we are all there for you.
Name: Jan - INKY'S PAL Charleys Girl NEWBEE CHAT & HELP LINE I'm a Charley's girl and loving it!
I am going to talk to him tomorrow but if he doesn't do hospice, the magistrate will court order him to have the treatments.
He will have no choice. Laws are different in each state but in ours if he doen not do everything to try to live the court will do it for you unless you are on hospice. That is my understanding of what has receintly happened. His brother whom he never sees got the judge to order him in the hospital for treatments and they let him fall and break his foot while under their care. He has a do not recessitate order and it was totally ignored. We have legal papers that they didn't care about. And if he is not on hospice it will happen again.
I hope you made it okay with that tornado so close by the other night! Haven't seen you in a couple of days... maybe your electricity is out? I heard on the news that there was some outages from the tornado...hoping the best for you!
Hospice isn't all bad. I was very thankful for the hospice for my daughter. They were such support and such wonderful people, I cannot say enough good about them. But I believe it is the small town factor, with very caring people.
I agree with you all, and I will abide by his decision, he made me his power of attorney and made a living will to have me make decisions for him when he couldn't, so I just hope I can when it's time. I told them today as long as he is in his right mind I won't go against his wishes. So they set him up with hospice and started the process. I know the family is gonna pressure me to change it and get upset with me if I don't but I have to do what he asked me to. I know he will be in a better place. He was happy working in his church and going on mission trips to help in other areas. This year he started going down hill. And he is determined to stop fighting and just go. It just seems to be too much for him. He has given up.
