How has your life changed in the past year? forum: 2010: Good, bad or in between?

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Imagetomatofreak
Dec 19, 2010 1:27 PM CST
Name: Alma
Phoenix & Cottonwood, AZ
USDA zone 9b, Sunset 13 & ??
As we head into 2011, how would you assess the past 12 months? I know for some of us, there were hard times, for some there was unsettling change, and - maybe for some - status quo. Perhaps, like me, there was some of all during the year.

Since August, I've become accustomed to spending about four days out of each week alone as the MOTH goes to school in another town. Sometimes it's OK; sometimes I feel burdened by all the mundane around-the-house work with no one to share it. I'm happy, though, that he is doing so well and is gaining confidence and skill in becoming a nurse.

We still have made no progress in getting out of this house and into another one near the school. The RE market is nowhere near where we could make a decent profit on this house. Not happy about this situation at all. I do NOT want to spend another summer in this godforsaken furnace. Thumbs down

Healthwise, it's been up and down. This coming week, I'll get an x-ray and MRI to try and find out what causes the debilitating pain that strikes over and over. It may be scar tissue or bone spurs in cervical vertebrae. Whatever it is, I hope this coming year brings a solution so I can get on with living - even with a level of tolerable pain. I'm sure I'm not the only one here dealing with pain.

Moneywise, nothing changed; Lincoln still squeals when the penny is pinched. It would be nice if 2011 brings a little relief to the pocketbook.

So how is everyone here?
Alma
In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock. – Thomas Jefferson
ImageRuns_With_Scissors
Dec 23, 2010 1:05 PM CST
Name: Barb ~~~~~~~
Phoenix Arizona
Challenging....2010 has been challenging Glare
Imagetomatofreak
Dec 23, 2010 5:01 PM CST
Name: Alma
Phoenix & Cottonwood, AZ
USDA zone 9b, Sunset 13 & ??
Well, could you be a little more cryptic???! Personally, I find getting up in the morning challenging. Rolling my eyes.
Alma
In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock. – Thomas Jefferson
ImageRuns_With_Scissors
Dec 23, 2010 6:47 PM CST
Name: Barb ~~~~~~~
Phoenix Arizona
a little more cryptic, 2010 has been little more cryptic. I tip my hat to you.
Imagetomatofreak
Dec 23, 2010 7:09 PM CST
Name: Alma
Phoenix & Cottonwood, AZ
USDA zone 9b, Sunset 13 & ??
Rolling on the floor laughing
Alma
In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock. – Thomas Jefferson
ImageAguane
Dec 23, 2010 7:25 PM CST
Name: Susie
Phoenix AZ
Just saw your thread.
I'm thankful for a fabulous year, 2010. Very content. I'm grateful for warmth in cold weather, shelter, good nutritious food, security and good health and good friends. Thankful I am able to give something to those in need. Couldn't have been a better year for me. Wishing peace and all you need for comfort, to everyone.
"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." --Albert Einstein
~ All Things Plants, SOUTHWEST GARDENING ~Cubits.org ENERGY & POWER
Imagebsavage
Jan 1, 2011 3:31 PM CST
Name: Brenda
Dolores, Colorado
Ahhh, 2010. The year I realized how much I love our home here and our little town of Dolores. I came to this when DH and I put our place here on the market, and started looking in Northern California. Mind you, you can get some awesome buys and lovely homes that would have been out of reach in previous years, but I kept finding myself trying to duplicate our community... something that simply cannot be done. I discovered that I truly enjoy working as a cook and bartender. Had you asked me that 5 years ago, I would have either laughed or cried at the idea. Tony learned that he actually enjoys driving school bus! And so hopefully, 2010 was the year that we discovered how to make a lovely, sustainable life here in the mountains of Colorado. My hope for the future... that we can continue to grow our life right here.

Happy New Year to you all... may 2011 bring you many blessings and much love, and may you notice it and embrace it!

Brenda
Imagebsavage
Feb 28, 2011 8:47 PM CST
Name: Brenda
Dolores, Colorado
I am a scrapbooker. My husband loves our scrapbooks. I have not wanted to scrapbook since we got married, in 2007. We have volumes of scrapbooks from the earlier years. I've often said that it was a good thing that we were together for five years before getting married, because we had already been through many ups and downs. Because right after we got married, the financial shit hit the fan. And everything that we had built up through those five years started to crumble.
The economy collapsed, our businesses, new contruction and real estate, were devestated. Ultimately, in our first year married, we had to walk away from our home (and our gardens, and our ponds), sell dozens of motorcycles, objects, furnishings, guns, say goodbye to friends, move to another state, start over, let go.

So, that is not so much fun to scrapbook. Yet my husband wishes for me to continue. So, I have to go back, and re-live 2008 - today. I have been doing that for the past two days, and I haven't even gotten into the 'great dig', when I had my gardening friends over to dig up anything they wanted out of our gardens, and the giving all of the fish away to koi rescue.

Today, we are precariously happy in our new life, and finding things to be happy about everyday. I say 'precariously' because we still don't know what will happen with our home here... there is still a second mortgage balloon payment looming that we don't know if we'll be able to pay off. The simplest things make us happy, having good jobs, the beauty of nature that surrounds us, new friends, a simpler life. (Thank you God!).

Nonetheless, it is hard and sad to re-live in scrapbook form everything that we have been through. Yet, I feel our story should be told, for us as well as for our future generations. I am sad today, though I find there were many happy times through all the stress. I am sad that today my husband had to sell his beautiful watch so that we could afford to continue to move forward. In fact, he has had to sell many, many things to allow us to continue to move on. Things, yes. But things that he had built, or earned, and quite honestly, earning things has value, so doesn't giving up things that you have earned have value as well? It's hard. It's damn difficult.

So as much as I am completely a glass half full kind of girl, and as much as I am so proud of Tony and I for moving forward with dignity and grace, and as much as I totally and completely love our new life here... at this moment I am a bit sad. I suppose mourning the loss of what you have earned and accomplished isn't as studied as mourning the loss of most other things. They are just things. Things that you earned, that you built, that you grew. Lives that you were the employer for. Just things. Sad
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ImageAguane
Feb 28, 2011 9:47 PM CST
Name: Susie
Phoenix AZ
Aw, Brenda. You've expressed yourself and your and Tony's journey so beautifully over the last couple of years. We're all listening. Lots of us have been on the brink or worse. Each of us experiences such loss and sadness in these horrid, unrelenting economic downturn times.

Nothing can correct the wrong that the Wall Street (and deeper) scoundrels brought upon us. Even time will be a very slow healer. I look around and think that a slow and steady plan of recovery is best.

The thing about "things" is that they are little totems that hold our memories, our blood sweat and tears. They are icons that represent our milestones, happiness and sad times. I have a box that holds Bert's ashes. It's a "thing" but, make damn sure I want that "thing" near me. If I lost it, I'd be so sad. If I lost his pictures I'd be more saddened.

So I can understand that it's a very unhappy day, the day Tony needed to sell his beautiful watch. I remember that striking watch. Of course you're saddened.

Now, you move forward in a planned and modest way, thankful for good health and friends and the ability to strike a good life. I am part of the Universe that prays you can make the balloon. We need a bigger Universe!
Love to you and Tony! Faith, strength, and may times prove much, much better.
Group hug Lovey dubby Group hug
"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." --Albert Einstein
~ All Things Plants, SOUTHWEST GARDENING ~Cubits.org ENERGY & POWER
Imagebsavage
Mar 1, 2011 12:29 AM CST
Name: Brenda
Dolores, Colorado
Oh my goodness, Susie, I love you so. You are amazing. Thank you.
Imagedahlianut
Mar 1, 2011 1:37 PM CST
Name: Dahlianut
Calgary, AB Zone 3a
Group hug dearest Brenda Group hug I try to remember that 'things' are not really gone. They are safely stored in your heart and the hearts of your loved ones. You will always be able to see them there and they will make you smile when you least expect it.

Luv ya Lovey dubby
Imagebsavage
Mar 2, 2011 12:12 PM CST
Name: Brenda
Dolores, Colorado
Thanks, Dahlianut. You are awesome. I'm feeling better now... Monday was a rough day for me. Onward!
ImageAguane
Mar 2, 2011 2:03 PM CST
Name: Susie
Phoenix AZ
I'm reminded that a friend of mine left Castro's Cuba with her family and just the clothing on her back and an extra pair of shoes. She started from scratch. Not good to compare but a little piece of info like that can give you a boost.

Glad you're feeling better, Brenda!
"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." --Albert Einstein
~ All Things Plants, SOUTHWEST GARDENING ~Cubits.org ENERGY & POWER
ImageRuns_With_Scissors
Mar 2, 2011 8:57 PM CST
Name: Barb ~~~~~~~
Phoenix Arizona
I know things have been tough, we are feeling it too. When things get really difficult I think... If you have your health you really have everything. There are people out there with terminal illness and a lot of $$, and the $$ can't fix it Sad Hang in there "this too shall pass"
ImageBoopaints
Mar 2, 2011 11:16 PM CST
Name: Becky Capps
Phoenix, AZ 85022
finding joy one day at a time!
I'm here for you too Brenda...and also to say that 2010 was the absolute hardest year of my life financially AND the very best ever in developing a strength I never knew I possessed. I found out who true friends are and how great God is!

A young man I "met" on the internet posted this on his facebook page and I really love it!

"There comes a time in life when you walk away from all the pointless drama and the people who create it. Surround yourself with people that add meaning to your life. Life is too short to be wasted on controlling, insecure, jealous and unstable people. David in Uganda 2-19-2011".

And as a result of 2010, I decided to go back to school and was given a fantastic Pell Grant. I'm majoring in Social Work and minoring in Sociology and L O V E it!
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Imagebsavage
Mar 3, 2011 3:33 AM CST
Name: Brenda
Dolores, Colorado
Susie, Barb, and Becky, thank you so much for your wise words and loving thoughts. I ♥ you all!!!!
ImageBoopaints
Mar 4, 2011 10:50 AM CST
Name: Becky Capps
Phoenix, AZ 85022
finding joy one day at a time!
Lovey dubby Group hug

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