Tributes forum: Chris (Sandy's friend)

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Imagecritterologist
Jan 27, 2012 3:33 PM CST
Name: Critter (Jill)
MD
Chris and Sandy (ilovejesus99) became best friends at a time when a good friend was exactly what they both needed. Some visits, they talked and joked around the entire time, and at other times they simply enjoyed being together. They shared their families through stories and photos, and they celebrated Christmas together.

Chris shared Sandy's love of plants and her sense of silly. My favorite story from Sandy about her is the fun they had inventing their ideal landscape plan for Chris' small yard... they figured the only way they'd be able to have even half the plants they "needed" would be to put in multiple garden levels, layered like a parking deck. And then, of course, they'd need a riding mower to cruise between levels.

She always told Sandy, "It's not over 'til!" When "til" arrived, her sons and her two dear friends, Sandy and Brandi, were by her side, holding her hands and telling her it was OK, that they'd see her on the other joyous side.

We got to know Chris through Sandy's posts on the "Family and Caregivers" forum. I hope Sandy will share some more stories with us, and we'll continue to love & remember Chris with her.
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chefmike92
Jan 27, 2012 5:08 PM CST
Chris may gods hand embrace you and Sandy may you feel the healing and support you need from us your big family and friends. You are a special kind of friend that will not turn there heads when someone is in time of need you go in with determination to help in any way possible. Chris is where she is able to enjoy all of the great things in the after world and im sure she will be waiting with open arms and a big open heart when god feels like you have lived your life to its fullest here and bring you to his golden road to life ever after. Now Chris can have that multilevel garden and fill it with every plant she likes.

Chris rest in peace and Sandy morn for your friend but remember the great times you had with Chris.

your friends
Mike & Wil
Imagevic
Jan 27, 2012 5:33 PM CST
Name: Vicki
North Carolina
Chris, rest peacefully in the arms of our Lord Lovey dubby

Sandy, know that prayers continue for peace on your heart. Chris's memory will live in your sweet heart forever. Bless you dear friend. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Imageilovejesus99
Jan 27, 2012 10:07 PM CST
Name: Sandy
Texas 9b
I was at the funeral home tonight from 5:30 till around 8:15. Her sons and family welcome me as if I have always been there with them. Chris looks beautiful and is covered in her bling. Her and I both love to wear shiny stand out jewelry. She had on a pink breast cancer sweater she had the heart necklace and earrings we found shopping at Kohls right before Christmas, a pink bracelet one of her sweet friends brought her to the hospital. A breast cancer bracelet, a bracelet her nephew got her, a heart shaped ring made of many rhinestones her son bought her in the hosp. gift shop and a few more bracelets and a crystal ring. She had on a pink baseball cap that Brandi got her that says Fight for a Cure. On the casket bottom over the satin skirt was the doiley I had our own Candee make for Chris. It looks so beautiful on there and I am so proud the boys decided to adorn her casket with it.
On the sign in table was the normal book to register, a pink Bible to sign and Chris' Big Pink 12 step book. She was a member of OA for over 20+ years and lived the 12 steps. They ask we sign all 2 of them. I took a beautiful Valentine from my DGDs that they signed as a momento for Chris. She never got to meet them or them her. I told them now was not the time for them to see her but remember her through my eyes of all the things I shared about her.

A few funny stories about Chris. I never knew Chris had such a love for plants until I went to her house the first time. I actually invited myself. I told her I was going to come spend a night at her home and she got very excited. Several yrs ago Chris was having mini strokes and did not know it. She totaled 3 cars in around a year so her boys bought her a 1990 Toyota Corolla. (The one she gave me) It needs an ignition switch and has to be started by inserting a screwdriver into this thing under the dash and turn. Sometimes it starts and other times it is contrary. After the first time Chris let me do all the driving. One of the first times I drove we were coming out of a dollar store and I turned and seriously looked at her and said Oh Chris I lost your key......Her jaw dropped for just a split second then if looks could kill well....you can guess...OMG I was laughing so hard I thought I was going to split my sides like I am now. rotflol.

Tonight as I was ready to leave I went up to say good night to her and held onto her hand. As I squeezed it I could feel the lg heart ring on her finger. Being the SA I am (wow and those are my initials SA) Rolling on the floor laughing Rolling on the floor laughing Rolling on the floor laughing I looked at her and said no I am not trying to take it. :) made me smile really big as I could almost see a beautiful smile come on her face. I touched her cheek and told her I love her and headed home. I will return tomorrow for the funeral at 2:00 and say my final farewell see you again one day.

I have a few more funnies I will share but want to rest for a while until I turn in. Lovey dubby Group hug Group hug Group hug
Imagecritterologist
Jan 27, 2012 11:02 PM CST
Name: Critter (Jill)
MD
Sandy, thanks for stopping by tonight. You & Chris make me Rolling on the floor laughing -- what a pair! I wish I could've visited with both of you.
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I'm learning to dance in the rain! Thank you, Sally & Chris.
Imagevic
Jan 28, 2012 5:20 AM CST
Name: Vicki
North Carolina
Sandy, thank you so much for the lovely stories. They are healing for you to talk about and they let us know what a wonderful and dear friend Chris was to you Lovey dubby

Prayers continue for you and all Chris's family Group hug
chefmike92
Jan 28, 2012 5:39 PM CST
Sandy it was great to hear your stories and i will tell you the more i talk about loosing my mom the more my heart healed. Yes you will miss her but she is going to be watching over you and when you break a nail gardening she will laugh at you . She will be ready with the most glorious garden/yard you have ever seen when its time for you to join her BUT during that LONG time remember they way she was in your heart and what great friends you are.

much love Lovey dubby Group hug
Mike and Wil
Imageilovejesus99
Jan 28, 2012 9:38 PM CST
Name: Sandy
Texas 9b
The service was wonderful. One of the drivers from Westbury did the speaking and broke down 2 times. Erwin drove her van for around 9 months. He did a great job. Alot of us went to Kelly's Country Kitchen for dinner. Her sweet son's would not let us pay. As they took her out her one son had the man hand me the doily. It made me cry. I placed a kiss on it and as she has 2 sisters, 2 daughter in laws and a sister in law it was so hard to chose who should have the doily. I gave it to her son David and told him I have one here at my home I want Jason to have. He said no it is yours and I told him I want them to have them. I will get Jason's address and make sure he gets mine. It is not important for me to have one as it is important to me that they both have one. They were awesome to allow me to be with her as often as I wanted to and could be there. They thanked me and I told them I am only a phone call away if they ever need anything. Her dad was there and I heard someone say he said no one should out live a child. Her sister Renee had a massive stroke 3 months ago and they had to remove 1/4th of her brain. They will replace the skull this week. She can not use her left side and it frustrates her. She was so heart broken today. She will be in rehab for a long time. She is really going to miss Chris.

Chris has 1 half brother and 1 half sister. Her half sister is 3 months pregnant and Chris was so excited for them. Chris has 2 grandsons 1 12 and 1 2 1/2. They are really going to miss her. I did place the Valentine my girls signed for her by her side. The flowers everyone sent where absolutely beautiful. All colors and kinds. I brought home several colors of carnations and several different colors of....the name slips my tongue at the moment. Oh yes snap dragons. I placed them in a vase on the table and they look and smell beautiful. I am really tired and going to turn in soon. I love you all and TY for allowing me to share my very special friend here with all of you.
Group hug Lovey dubby Group hug Lovey dubby
Imagevic
Jan 29, 2012 3:44 AM CST
Name: Vicki
North Carolina
Thank you Sandy for sharing with us. Please get as much rest as you can and take care of you. Prayers for all of you continue.
Imagehaighr
Jan 31, 2012 6:24 AM CST
Name: Candee Gaye
Western Maryland
Been there, Done that!
Sandy,
Your stories touch my heart and will warm yours for all time. You shared a special bond with Chris and thank you for bringing her into my life. I am honored to have that doily as part of her farewell, but saddened at the same time. Bless you for all the joy you brought to Chris and thank you for all the stories of your life journey together.
Candee
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