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You have your art, the dog and the cat, music of your choice is readily available and a nap can be taken anytime when you are retired. I think you have all the means of refuge available to you.
All I am missing is the cat...and the neighbors cat is going to have a litter any day now
Actually yes, I think Schweitzer's original quote said only music and cats. I thought that was pretty limited and took the liberty of adding more so it might include more who read it. Comfort words or something, I dunno what I was thinking.
You were thinking of what gives you refuge. The dog, the art, and the nap, along with the music and the cat are all comforts or refuge for you.
For me, I would add nature. The trees, the mountains, the sea, flowers, rain and sun. It is impossible for me to be miserable when I am busy drinking in the beauty of nature.
Nature - mountains for me too. But that shows in my art as well.
My Jazz Cat just passed tonight, just an hour ago. He was only sick last night and today, and I couldn't find a vet today. No pain, just gone before I even realized I would lose him. Lethargy, then coma, then gone. Breaks my heart. My daughter got home just after and helped me. Sunshine is a wreck, not sure what's going on. Me too.
Ladies, your words went right to my heart, thank you. Debra . . . I love your hugs.
I will tell you more later, but I'm having to watch Sunshine carefully, she wailed last night when I wrapped Jazz and I need to get outside to dig a little grave. I can't let Sunshine see this part, I couldn't take not even one more of her wails. I don't think I've ever heard that kind of low sound coming from her before. But I'll be back tonight and thank you so very much.
This weekend is over finally. I thought it would never end. It's the unconditional love they give us that we miss so much. I'm having a little trouble with Sunshine, she's a little off kilter, off schedule and only finally ate her dinner just a little while ago. But she ate, so that's good. She and Jazz slept together on the end of my bed every night, this morning after the very rough night, I woke to find Sunshine sleeping with her head on my arm and snuggled up against my side. I'm not sure if she needed me or if she thought I needed her. Either way, it worked.
Thank you again so much. I'm sure you've all been through the same thing. We love them and they love us and with every passing we are left with heartache, but we get to keep the memories of their unconditional love.
Oh, Sharon..... I remember when my son's cat passed. Her brother (same litter) looked for her for a couple of days, but then, as cats do, he resigned himself to her absence. I hope Sunshine will get over it quickly. You too, but humans at least understand about death. And humans have other means of distraction, whereas animals have only their owners to think about.
Name: Margaret Delta KY I'm A Charley's Girl For Sure
Sunshine. I know you are heartbroken to lose Jazz just as much as Sharon is.
Animals grieve just like us. When I lost Robbie his brother Smokey wanted lots of cuddling for 3 days afterwards. Even now when the first snow covers the ground white Smokey wants to cuddle for a little bit because snow reminds him of the fun times they had playing in it.
Robbie's mom Mindy actually cried as he was her favorite of her babies. She also loved snow. So I love to see a good snow on because it feels as if they are both here with us while it lasts.
Sweet story, Margaret, thank you. Sunshine is very hesitant to go into my bedroom where Jazz died, She wailed so long and loud when I was wrapping Jazz in his blanket . . I had put the gate up to that room so she wouldn't worry Jazz for those few hours when he was sick and I was trying to get hold of a vet, she could easily knock it down, but she knew to stay where she was when the gate was closed. But she knew, because when I started wrapping Jazz in his favorite blanket, Sunshine started with a whine, but the whine turned into a deep throated wail, it went straight to my heart because I've never seen an animal do that. Sunshine was so stressed I had to get my daughter to finish with Jazz while I walked Sunshine down the hallway so she couldn't see. And yesterday when I buried Jazz, I couldn't let Sunshine see either.
But Sunshine is staying close to me today, keeps me in sight, and is finally eating again. I am so glad she wasn't with me when Jazz died, she was on the other side of the gate and Jazz was behind a chair near the window, so Sunshine didn't see anything until I started wrapping Jazz. That's when I called my daughter and she came to help. One of those 3 a.m. phone calls that nobody likes to get.
