Perhaps it grew stronger over the years as we allowed it to grow in our hearts and minds after that first flush of romantic love gave way to the stronger and more lasting love that carried us through the good times, the rough times and the quiet times. It takes work to keep love alive. Just like a fire, love must be fed and tended to keep it alive. The more it is stoked, the hotter it will burn.
Name: Mary The dry side of Oregon Be yourself, you can be no one else
Nice thoughts. Being friends first often heads off trouble because the problems are visible before the romance comes. There are cases of love at first sight that develop into lasting relationships. As with wood fires, two logs burn better, close enough to keep each other warm and far enough apart to breathe.
I believe that a lot of marriages fail because the couple does not want to put in the effort it takes to progress past the initial heat of burning desire and romance to the steady warmth of a long burning love. That doesn't mean there should be no romance left. Only that it must be rekindled over the years to keep the fire burning.
True love will continue even when sexual desires succumb to the weakness and travails of the flesh. There are many other ways to stay connected. Holding hands, hugs, cuddling and snuggling go a long way in maintaining the strong bond of love between two people. I think too many people confuse sex with love. The same applies to words. A simple phrases like "I Love you" and "you are my everything", mean a lot more than any sexual pleasure.