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ImageLance
Feb 4, 2010 1:36 PM CST
Name: Lance Gardner
coastal plain Virginia
Question authority, guide in wisdom
As mentioned in the introduction, I would like to share information about getting families, especially children, outside more.
So here is my current challenge: My son is about 6.5 years old, and generally we have a great time getting out and about. However, actually getting him out the door seems to be a challenge, especially since his Mom prefers to stay inside.
Any ideas on how to get him out without resorting to confrontational tactics? It used to be enough to say "Let's go", but that does not seem to work as well anymore. So now I am typically telling him we need to get out, and then going outside whether or not he comes, hoping he will want to follow me, strongly urging him to get out, as well. I would like him to be a bit more agreeable again so I don't feel like I have to either badger or literally push him out the door.
So let's trade some ideas, and see what works.
Look and listen for the welfare of the whole people and have always in view not only the present but also the coming generations, even those whose faces are yet beneath the surface of the ground -- the unborn of the future Nation. The Constitution of the Iroquois Nations.
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ImagePuff
Feb 6, 2010 1:42 PM CST
Name: Flowers
NC
Lance, I just name walk or lets look for a treasure chest and hide something on the property. They do love riding with me up the dirt road on riding lawnmower. We also collect bugs in a jar from time to time lol
.You never get to old to play
ImageUniQueTreasures
Feb 9, 2010 11:00 PM CST
Name: Janet Colvin
Z8~Beaumont~Southeast Texas
Proud member of Cubits.org
A few years ago my sister and I built a butterfly cage. My grandkids can't wait to get out there when they come visit. I've nominated one in particular who is here more often as my caterpillar Mama. When the caterpillars start showing up, we collect them, put them in the cage and she helps me to take cuttings of their host plant and plant them in something that will go into the cage. They help me clean the cage and when they morph into chrysallis they enjoys watching them morph again into butterflies and releasing them. We go out looking in the yard for more caterpillars. Sometimes we will go to nurseries, needing more milkweed and she will look over every plant to see if she can pluck them off to put in our pot. It was funny hearing her tell the guy at the place we wanted milkweed WITH caterpillars please.
Imageflowersrjen
Feb 15, 2010 10:30 PM CST
Name: jennifer
central nj
I find you actually have to tell them what they'll be doing outside. Let's go outside and do this..." " and I usually don't have a problem except when it's too hot. (we need a pool!!!)
ImagePuff
Feb 16, 2010 9:05 AM CST
Name: Flowers
NC
Flowersrgin wish you were here, would give you mine. The problem with that is no one wants to help clean it. I have an above ground 5x5 footer that was used one summer. It was impossible to keep clean. I suggest taking them to the public pool and getting a slip and slide and putting out a sprinkler if they are younger kids.
.You never get to old to play
Imageflowersrjen
Feb 16, 2010 3:59 PM CST
Name: jennifer
central nj
We don't have public pools here, except for at the YMCA and the membership is a little pricey. If I had a pool I really wouldn't mind cleaning it, I would live in it all summer. I grew up living on a lake and we were in it all summer long, hee hee of course no cleaning involved.
Hubby has to fix the water line to the back yard for the hose, hope he gets it done this year. We had so much rain last year it didn't matter so much but hauling buckets all the way around the house will not be fun.
ImagePuff
Feb 17, 2010 9:29 AM CST
Name: Flowers
NC
Well you can always hook the water hose to your washer spigot and run it out the door to fill a kiddy pool. I prefer this as to the big ones with chemicals that you have to dump on the lawn at the end of season. Super dooper water guns are fun for 6 year olds too. Their imagination can run wild, especially if you invite a friend over for him her to play with. Somehow they never get tired of water games.
.You never get to old to play
Imagedixiegalpa
Feb 20, 2010 11:18 PM CST
Name: Debbie S
Central PA
Hitting lots of milestones this yea
For a pool we go to in laws...they are 3 mi from us. For a creek we go right down the road...for a lake we go a mile up the road...and for a river we go 5 mi and have a great place to boat and swim and fish. But when we can't go to those places. I have a hose and water guns too. My son loves them and since my parents are next door...He goes down and grabs the dogs so they can cool off too:)
mama of a 7yr old Wolf Scout.
wife of wonderful hubby of 9 yrs:)
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Imagedixiegalpa
Feb 20, 2010 11:21 PM CST
Name: Debbie S
Central PA
Hitting lots of milestones this yea
For the other topic...I don't usually have too hard a time getting my son motivated. We just say what fun thing we are going to do...or if we are going to play with the chickens...he loves it outside:) I just recommend that if a child doesn't want to go out because of electronics...you tell them that they can't have the games for x amt of time and usually that works.
mama of a 7yr old Wolf Scout.
wife of wonderful hubby of 9 yrs:)
Secretary of Pack Committee 284
Asst Den Leader,PTO mama,SAHM
ImageLance
Mar 10, 2010 3:01 PM CST
Name: Lance Gardner
coastal plain Virginia
Question authority, guide in wisdom
Wow, I get pre-occupied with the other necessities of life, and when I return to here, there is a good conversation going on without even needing me to keep it going.
For the swimming pool idea, I have read in a few places of a natural swimming pool, whereby there is a 'marsh' on one side for water purification, and a deeper area on another side for swimming. This requires much less maintenance, and for those used to swimming in natural areas, a lot more fun as you can probably put in a few small fish to watch or chase. I think a Google search should work to locate some sources for this idea.
Once I get my son outside, he generally stays with me for a while. One of our adventures is to go to a local forest area, bike about 2 miles to a river with picnic tables, and then spend the rest of the day enjoying the water and a picnic lunch. I usually have to remind him it is time to go home for dinner.
I like the butterfly cage idea, as we have a lot of caterpillars around that we could use. It would be fun to watch which caterpillars turn into which moths or butterflies. What did you make it out of, and how do you keep the unwanted critters out?
We have started some of our seeds for the year, with some peas being planted and some inside seeds started, as well. He says he is looking forward to more gardening, so we shall see how we do as the year progresses. He is already picking out where to plant his popcorn, which was a fun plant to grow last year. Of course, we still have a couple of months before we can plant corn, but it is good to know he is looking forward to it.
Keep the ideas and discussion coming. And for dixiegalpa, I just noticed you have a similar Cubit set up as mine, so feel free to refer back and forth between this and what you have. I have no problems sharing and avoiding too much repitition.
Look and listen for the welfare of the whole people and have always in view not only the present but also the coming generations, even those whose faces are yet beneath the surface of the ground -- the unborn of the future Nation. The Constitution of the Iroquois Nations.
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AlohaHoya
Apr 19, 2010 6:16 PM CST
Name: Carol Noel
Hawaii (near Hilo)
It's all about choices.
To avoid NO, I always tried "Ok, we're going outside...now, you want to X or you want to Y?"

How about building a fort?

How about picking flowers for Mom?

How about getting Mom out too!!!
Leap. The net will appear.
ImageLance
Apr 20, 2010 12:19 PM CST
Name: Lance Gardner
coastal plain Virginia
Question authority, guide in wisdom
Thank you for the suggestions. Giving us a specific task does seem to help, and quite often he comes out with me with no problems. He is having a bit more fun with gardening this year, and is excited about growing spinning top gourds and luffa sponges, as well as his miniature multi-colored popcorn that we saved from last year. The draw of videos and video games is still quite strong, so I try to give him some time for that, as well, after we spend a lot of time outside. Sort of like down time or nap time in the afternoon.
He certainly enjoys flower picking, and I need to watch which ones he picks. Certainly no shortage of activities!
I don't think the video games are all bad, as long as they are kept in moderation, like many other distractions. He is learning to read and research strategies from some books, and it helps with eye-hand coordination some. They can be difficult to put down, though, as we play them together sometimes, so I can understand the desire to 'beat' the game.
Mom joins us sometimes, but has other things to work on.
A few days ago, I found him playing his game before he ate breakfast, while I was getting critter care items together. I told him the game was done for the day, put on his shoes, and he is coming out with me to take care of the animals; since breakfast was not that important to him, he could have that after we were done. After a few minutes outside, he was good to go and even forgot about breakfast, again. But at least he got out, and learned the importance of priorities.
So, we are getting there. Keep the ideas coming, I enjoy reading about them all.
Look and listen for the welfare of the whole people and have always in view not only the present but also the coming generations, even those whose faces are yet beneath the surface of the ground -- the unborn of the future Nation. The Constitution of the Iroquois Nations.
Dogs; Family Fun Unplugged; Perennials, Annuals, Veggies; Happy Birthday Wishes
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AlohaHoya
Apr 20, 2010 1:06 PM CST
Name: Carol Noel
Hawaii (near Hilo)
It's all about choices.
Does he have 'chores'? When my son was about 6 or 7 he had chores and he got an allowance (no video games back them). BUT, he was NOT paid to do his chores: 'we contributed to eachother's lives' .... he did chores to help me/us and I gave him an allowance to help him/us. Our daughter uses time on the computer or 'games' as punishment/reward.... having chores gives them a feeling of independence, purpose, pride and accomplishment!!!
Leap. The net will appear.
Imagevalleylynn
Apr 29, 2010 12:14 PM CST
Name: Lynn
Dallas, OR zone 8
Love the butterfly cage idea Janet. I might have to try that one for my GC when they come.
We didn't pay ours for doing chores either, we all worked for the good of the family.
Our GC are allowed 2 hours of video games only on the weedend (that is to be used for the whole weekend) and almost no TV (maybe 2 or 3 hours for the whole week). Their parents keep them pretty busy with many other interesting things at home and away from home.
ImageLance
May 24, 2010 11:12 AM CST
Name: Lance Gardner
coastal plain Virginia
Question authority, guide in wisdom
Thank you all for your wonderful ideas. I really like the idea of limiting video time to just a few hours a week, but would have to get that idea past 2 instead of one person.
I have been waiting for some of the garden to come together a bit more (amongst other things), and have some photos to share now. I took an old porch umbrella that was losing its fabric, removed the rest of the fabric pieces, and now have it in the garden to make a living umbrella/fort. My son and I planted Tennessee spinner gourds around the outside reach, with strings hanging down for the vines to grow up, to make him a living fort or hide a away. If these vines are like other gourds, it should cover the umbrella skeleton with no problems. The gourds, when dry, are supposed to be able to be used as toy spinning tops, so we shall how it goes. We still have yet to plant the popcorn, as it rained quite a bit this weekend, but it will get done soon. I will plant purple pole beans in with the popcorn, and it should be nicely colorful. The popcorn will go near the umbrella. We are also growing luffa gourds and cucuzzi, which end up looking like clubs when full grown, but can be eaten like summer squash when smaller. I am also trying yard long asparagus beans for another novelty. To protect the little gourd and other sprouts, I have cans around them until they get big enough to fend a bit better for themselves and avoid bunny marauders. My son also personally waters things occasionally, which you can read about in my article in the gardens cubit.
We have started harvesting baby carrots, and he really enjoys them. The Little Finger carrots are meant to be picked when small, so they work really well this time of the year, with the really small ones going to the bunnies and chickens. We also have rainbow carrots, which come in various shades for the bottoms. We both worked in the garden yesterday, and he seemed to enjoy it, although I kept hearing about wanting to do just one more thing on his Pokemon game. At least we were able to break up the different activities, and he did his usual running around and climbing, as well.

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Look and listen for the welfare of the whole people and have always in view not only the present but also the coming generations, even those whose faces are yet beneath the surface of the ground -- the unborn of the future Nation. The Constitution of the Iroquois Nations.
Dogs; Family Fun Unplugged; Perennials, Annuals, Veggies; Happy Birthday Wishes
Imagevalleylynn
May 24, 2010 7:31 PM CST
Name: Lynn
Dallas, OR zone 8
Missed you Lance, glad to see you again. While I was in VA I planted tomatoes, herbs, and succulents with my two grandchildren. It was so much fun. Every time they call the give me a report on how the plants are doing. They are already eating basil and oregano.
ImageLance
May 25, 2010 7:41 AM CST
Name: Lance Gardner
coastal plain Virginia
Question authority, guide in wisdom
Glad to hear they all had fun with it. So what do you think of my umbrella fort idea?
Basil is one of my favorite herbs, so I am planting lots of it. Now if I could just train the bunnies to only eat the plants I don't want, the weeding would be much easier and I would have time to finish planting everything else. What succulents did you plant? Based on your photo and cubit, I would imagine you have plenty. I have some heirloom hen and chicks that my mother gave me from some plants from her grandmother, I think it was. Good to keep the lineage going.
Look and listen for the welfare of the whole people and have always in view not only the present but also the coming generations, even those whose faces are yet beneath the surface of the ground -- the unborn of the future Nation. The Constitution of the Iroquois Nations.
Dogs; Family Fun Unplugged; Perennials, Annuals, Veggies; Happy Birthday Wishes
Imagevalleylynn
May 25, 2010 8:54 AM CST
Name: Lynn
Dallas, OR zone 8
Here is one of them. Then a pot of Semps. The single Hen and chicks I forgot to take a picture of. We did it so they could watch just on Hen grow her chicks. I will have to ask Jocey to take a picture and send it. This is all new the these two grandchildren as they don't have much of a yard so haven't had the experience of growing things. Last year they brought home pumpkin seedlings from school. So we planted them in the tiny back yard. They got to grow their own Halloween pumpkins. They were very excited about that.
I love your idea/photo of the umbrella fort. Can't wait to see pictures later this summer. Your son is going to have such a wonderful time with it this summer, especially on hot summer days. : ) Is he into looking at all the bugs and things in the dirt as he works? They fascinate me, so I try getting my grandchildren into looking for them and talking about them.
Would love to see a picture of your heirloom hen and chicks. What a wonderful tradition.

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