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Name: Bonnie Sojourner Harris Brake, Arkansas, zone 7 The Magnolia Zone
Lucy's words are so very true, Dee. I was with two of my grand girls helping them choose some school clothes. We went back and forth about what they wanted and what they needed. When we finally had our choices made we took them to the counter to check out. The sales girl had heard a lot of our conversations and looked at me with slightly teary eyes and said 'everyone needs a granny'. I felt that she had missed a lot by not having the relationship that a grandparent can have with a grandchild. You are filling a great void in your little guys life by being there and loving him. You are soldering on and that is the only gift you can give your husband and son now but it is the greatest gift of all. Your love and caring is reflecting their love and caring. They are giving through you. You are such a great blessing to Nicolas and you are the only one that can someday tell him the stories of Larry's childhood. The only way he will really ever know his Dad and his Grand Dad is through you.
So Well put Bonnie, you are so gifted in your ability to express things. Dee, I don't think there will ever be a day in your life that you don't miss them. The empty space in your heart will always be there. Your grandson will fill a new part of your heart now. I'm sure that he will bring many smiles to your face, and many moments of joy. Someone I knew while loosing her father to cancer was denying herself any thing she enjoyed, too afraid to be away from him for any length of time. Her father told her, just because I'm dying doesn't mean you have to stop living. Go to the horse show, show your horse like you've never done before, then come back and tell me about it. She did. After he passed, she went on to show her horses to some very impressive results. When she went up to accept her year end awards, she said, "Dad, I'm living my life, for me and for you"
A friend of mine who is a Dr. of Psychiatry says, it's not the number of breaths you take in life that matters, it's the number of moment in life that leave you breathless.
Name: Dee Stewart Willamette Valley OR Snowpeak Iris
Truthfully if Larry had not had Nicolas I would not have much to do with Maryann, she says one thing and I get it set up then she decides that she does not need or want me to interfer with how Nicolas sees the world. I want him to be like his dad not her girls or her.
Example, Larry had 2 snakes and she wanted to see if I could find a home. Well yesterday I found a home and I was to pick them and bring them here since I do not want people to know she is alone with my grandson. As soon as I told her finally found a home she got pissy and said to stop interferring and I reminded her that she was the one that asked me to do this. Instead she is not giving them food or water and that is cruel.
Larry and her had wanted me to help Nicolas learn to swim since she, and her two daughters do not know how to swim and Larry and myself are pretty good swimmers, got all the info and said to stop interferring.
I guess in her mind all I am good for is when her girls can not babysit is for me to babysit my boy, which I love to do.
Been away from here for several weeks and wondered how you were doing.
Just be his loving grandmother, and spoil him with love. He will get closer and closer to you as he is growing up in those moments he really needs to talk to someone and really know his Dad. Yesterday was my son's birthday and I still had a happy Birthday for him with all the kids then brought Autumn leaf branches to his grave.
I had to fill the day up so the emptiness wouldn't eat me alive. Mothers do what we gotta do. Lots of Love. Glad to see you are hanging in there. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸