Viewing post #245601 by tomatofreak
|"Being open means not getting hurt by these forces, but by protecting your creations and yourself from them."
Brenda, I'm not sure you meant it that way, "not getting hurt," but I think being open means knowing that you may get hurt at any time by anyone. People who close up tightly do so, I think, because they think they won't get hurt. And so they become like those Susan describes.
I can't count the times I've been hurt by being open to people I thought I knew, thought were 'good' (whatever that means), or thought had my best interests at heart. Along the way, I've been fooled, betrayed, sold out - and terribly hurt. But it's still in my DNA to be open. Otherwise, how could I have all the good experiences? Or learn from the bad ones?
Interestingly, over the years I've made great friends of 'enemies' and enemies of 'friends'. It's eye-opening to learn that some people love you as long as you do what they want. When you choose to follow your own heart, change your mind in the face of new evidence, and - god forbid - talk with *their* enemies, they turn their wrath on you. It takes a while, but you get over the hurt and find you don't miss them all that much - or at all.
Being open, to me, means being willing to take the trip whether it's smooth sailing or rough seas. Either way, it's interesting and if you maintain your integrity (by this I mean wholeness), you can come out the other side OK, grateful for the good and willing to give up the bad. That last part is sometimes terribly hard to do...
In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock. – Thomas Jefferson