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Jun 14, 2010 10:43 PM CST
Name: Alma
Phoenix & Cottonwood, AZ
USDA zone 9b, Sunset 13 & ??
I don't think I know a single person who hasn't been in that spot. Feuding people always want someone to 'take their side', to referee and call a winner. Earth to Lee Anne: The referee always loses.

I'm sure you love them both, perhaps even equally, but differently. I think if it were me, I'd sit them down together, tell them I love them, but that's it's unfair to me for them to put me in the middle. I'd ask them to sit down and calmly try to come up with a plan for peaceful coexistence. Then I'd tell them I'm going to walk away next time they bring their argument to me. You'd be amazed how well people can get along when they find a common 'enemy'. And while they're in a snit about your refusal to be a fall guy, they might actually learn to be civil to each other. Worth a try?
Alma
In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock. – Thomas Jefferson

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