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Name: Susan Torrington, Alberta, Canada World Famous Gopher Hole Museum
Prayers for my ex, Steve, please. He had heart surgery Aug 30th, and while he was complaining last night that they wouldn't let him have even water, he seems to be "out of the woods". The first 2 times he "just" had angina attacks (while he was out on the road - he's a trucker - 75% blockage, and 90% blockage!!), and the last time on June 16th, he had a stroke. He'd just gotten home about 4 hours previously, so he at least wasn't on the road!
4 months after the surgery he's able to go back to work, but then he retires in Nov 2012, so it's unlikely the company will let him drive again (after all - twice having attacks while at work!). Actually, the first time he was driving and passed out, going over a 200ft incline, and across a farmer's field before he came to... and wondered why his windshield was cracked! He's run into a tree!!!
He said to me the other day "I didn't expect to live past 45" (he's 63 now)... DUH! Terrible life style - smoking 3 to 4 packs/day, eating ("It's all bought and paid for" he says about his stomach) and developed diabetis 4 years ago. He won't stay on a diet.
I'm sooooooo glad he's my ex, cuz I couldn't put up with his self destruction. I told him when he was only 30 that he needed to make some lifestyle changes, but noooooooo "It's all bought and paid for" like it was the only thing he was assured of, the tummy fat!.
Our daughter is preparing herself for the worst - he won't listen to her and her dad's wife is worse than useless about letting anyone know facts (she can't keep them straight).
Well, he's in the hospital for 7-10 days and at least they'll be feeding him healthy food. I pray that no one brings him the junk food he craves!!
Name: Jaye or Sistah North Carolina, temporarily. Lord Jesus, He's all I need.
Added him to my list, Susan.
I pray that the Lord gives your ex wisdom! Sounds like he's on a death wish and want it to be happening soon.
Sad that he doesn't love his kids enough to take care of himself.
It's God's intervention that he's in the hospital now. May he open his eyes.
Name: Susan Torrington, Alberta, Canada World Famous Gopher Hole Museum
I forgot to mention - he also has been diagnosed with sleep apnia - and our daughter says she knows he won't wear the mask and she told the Dr that while her dad was there in the hospital.
Dear Lord - grant him the wisdom to understand what he's doing to everyone - his daughter, his wife, and friends. I consider myself one of his friends, but need to distance myself from caring too much for a man I'm no longer with, nor wish to be with. Thank you Lord, in Yours and Jesus' name I ask this.
Thank you for your prayers - He surely needs them.
I wish I could get in touch with our son. Perhaps I will post on his FB wall so he knows.
He sounds so much like my DH, Susan! So I can understand. DH did finally give up drinking, but hasn't been able to give up the smoking, even with pretty bad health! Won't eat right either, often leaves the veggies on the plate, snacking on junk food. Some just get stuck, frozen into bad habits, unable or unwilling to change. Sending my best wishes and prayers for him!
Name: Susan Torrington, Alberta, Canada World Famous Gopher Hole Museum
As far as I know, Steve isn't a drinker (he wasn't, during our 23 years of marriage, except for social drinking), but he loves his pepsi and nachos! He eats candy, too. And he eats way too much. He's about 5'10" and about 250lbs at last count. He started to lose weight and got checked out - that's when they diagnosed him with diabetes. Our daughter says he's put the weight back on - I suppose to compensate for his diabetes he's eating more?
Name: Jan - INKY'S PAL Charleys Girl NEWBEE CHAT & HELP LINE I'm a Charley's girl and loving it!
I am so sorry Susan and will be praying for him as well. prayers also for the children and you. Just because you can't live with someone doesn't mean you don't care. Bless you for asking for prayers for him.
God bless you all.
Name: Susan Torrington, Alberta, Canada World Famous Gopher Hole Museum
'sfunny you should mention "children", Jan - I only mentioned our daughter, but you're "right on" when you mention children because we have a boy and a girl. The boy (32 years old) is somewhere and we don't have any contact with him. He's in Vancouver, last we know in 2009. He's on FB but has not replied to a message I sent him. I tried to go back to the page he'd created, but it looks like Daniel deleted it so he could not be found. Anyway, "page could not be found" is what it says when I try to find him to send him a message.........
Pray for Daniel as well, please.
There is always hope for reconciliation. My aunt and uncle had absolutely no contact with their grown daughter (my cousin) for more than a decade and were afraid they'd never see or hear from her again. Then she wrote to my parents. It wasn't easy, but my mother was able to eventually persuade her to contact her mother. It all worked out in the end. Long story...but I hope your son will be able to get in touch with you someday also.
Name: Jaye or Sistah North Carolina, temporarily. Lord Jesus, He's all I need.
One of my younger brothers decide to cut all ties, since I became a Christian.
It's been 15 years he has avoided me, though I've made multiple attempts .
Now, I've accepted his decision, and I leave him to our Lord. With all the drama that's going on in my life, maybe it's His way of protecting me from more pain!!!
Name: Susan Torrington, Alberta, Canada World Famous Gopher Hole Museum
Jaye - God has blessed you with a "cushion" to protect you, as I believe he's done for me. I'm sure I'm not ready to hear from my son, should he be unwilling to bend to be the gentle soul he used to be. If he's still an angry young man (and I cannot, for the life of me, deal with anger) perhaps it's best for him not to contact me. As I'm the only one attempting the connection, it may not be time for the rest of the family to contact him. I know his sister was upset at the concept of a contact being made with him.
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