Well, Dad will be transferred to a long term care facility next week. The case worker for Dad called my Sister today, they went in for a conference, and was told that Dad has done all he can as far as therapy, and medicaid will not pay for him to stay where he is, and they will not allow him to go back to my Sisters home as no one can be there with him during the day while they work. He can't walk or go potty by himself, and he needs 24/7 care. She called all over Grand Rapids where she lives, and there are no home available, so they are moving him 30 miles away to a home. Bob, my brother in law, posted on Facebook what was going on, to update the family, and my youngest brothers, youngest daughter went off, and told him that we don't care about what happens to him, told us all that we have been lying to him all this time and just went on and on about how no one cares, and how terrible we have been treating him. That made all of us really upset. Bob told her she has no right to say things like that, she has not been around to know all the details, so keep her mouth shut and opinions to herself. So all the family has been upset and crying.
Just wanted to give you update on what is going on!
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Oh Linda, I'm so sorry to read that. This younger generation has no concept of family loyalties or tact of any kind. No matter how she felt, it was not her place to hurt others with her opinion especially when she did not know the facts of the matter. They don't take the time to find out what is really going on before spouting off. The Lord says to forgive them for they know not what they do but sometimes they make it really difficult to do so. So please let your heart rest easy knowing you and your sister have done the very best you can for your Dad and that he will be getting the care that he needs. And know that you can always come here and know that WE do understand. Gentle hugs my friend.....
Name: Jean Prairieville, LA In the eyes of a child you will see
Linda Kay, is there no possibility of getting a daytime sitter for him? That would allow him to be home with your sister and that would be so much better for him. Perhaps the Granddaughter so full of righteous indignation could come and stay...it would certainly be a learning experience for her.
Money is the issue! Things are really tight for my Sister, and medicare or medicaid does not pay for the full time help they need! They have already checked into it, and since he is so frail, and has medical issues they will not allow just anyone to come in and watch him, they say it has to be a trained medical staff! They just can't afford to do that! Wish I could help, but not at the $58.00 per hour they want to charge!
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Name: Jean Prairieville, LA In the eyes of a child you will see
Sorry, I forgot about the ridiculous jump in cost when a trained nurse/LPN is involved. I sincerely hope that your Dad continues to heal and hope this move does not set him back emotionally. Positive thoughts and prayers that he sees this as just another step to recovery.
Funny how they can find it in their hearts to get him on medicaid to pay for the nursing home, ($4000.00 per month or more) but can't find the funds to pay for a nurse for him to be comfortable in his own home!!
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Name: Jean Prairieville, LA In the eyes of a child you will see
Yeah, that has always baffled me too. But, at that rate, nursing home costs him about $130 a day per month and 10 hour/day in home nursing care would run just shy of $12,000 per month. That hardly seems fair, especially when there would be only be 3 or 4 hours of actually work involved.
Name: Jaye or Sistah North Carolina, temporarily. Lord Jesus, He's all I need.
That's the same way in this state too LK.
My FIL qualifies for nursing home care, MIL objected, but FIL can't get therapy at home nor a nursing assistant to help him with weekly baths.
It wasn't that way with Kel's brother years ago when he got all the help he needed at home.
NC state just turned down $$$$$ from the federal govt. in helping out with Medicaid. One doctor just told FIL Wednesday he doesn't know whether his cancer 'funds' would be available anymore.
Name: Susan Torrington, Alberta, Canada World Famous Gopher Hole Museum
I'm here, Jaye - just been very busy, and tired. Not getting on the computer much.
LK - the government wants to be "in" on the care, and if it's at home, they aren't playing "big brother" with their fingers in every pie! They can't be monitoring home care workers when they're "off site".
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